Why Queer Coaching?
Why not? But seriously, as a queer person who grew up in the good ole' US of A, I am quite aware of the fact that we are very rarely catered to. Usually, we are the “exception” (ie. heteronormative or cisnormative/binary point-of-view and language is used). Queer folks need coaches who intimately understand queer gender(s), expression, relationships and sexuality. We also need coaches who get the diversity of our experiences - living in a cisnormative, heteronormative, patriarchal, white-supremacist culture.
What does “Queer” mean?
Good question. It’s kind of like the word “love” - it has many, many meanings. The way I am using it is as an umbrella term that encompasses Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Asexual, Transgender, Non-Binary, Genderqueer, Intersex, Pansexual, Agender (and other identities not listed here). Another definition that I love is rooted in the historical context of the word, when it was reclaimed by the Transgender and Gay Liberation movements - to signify resistance and a radical, political perspective.
Do you work with people who aren’t Queer Identified?
Yes! Happy to work with any and all folks who resonate with the kind of coaching that I’m offering. Please don’t be shy to reach out, I’d love to meet you.
Coaching Vs. Therapy
You might be wondering, what is the difference between coaching and therapy? The easiest way to explain it is that coaching is focused on the present moment and the future. Coaching also is usually very goal oriented and can be more practical, creative, and spiritual. Therapy is often focused on the past and healing from the trauma of what happened. Coaching also does not diagnose or treat any mental health issues. I am a strong believer in working with therapists and I’m happy to refer you to someone if you need that kind of support. Often people who have done a good amount of healing in therapy find huge benefits in working with a coach to start making progress on their goals.
How is coaching different from working a 12 Step Program? (For those who want help with addiction recovery)
12 Step programs are spiritually-based, peer-led, free, and follow a very specific program of recovery outlined in the Big Book of AA or the steps for that particular program. They often also have their own tools that are very helpful - such as making calls to fellows, working with a sponsor, and doing service. Sponsors help folks in the programs work the steps and get sober, one day at a time. Sponsors are non-professional peers who have been through the steps themselves. Recovery coaching can support you in ways that may be difficult to get from a 12 Step program - such as learning tools to overcome procrastination, develop your intuition, start new habits, create and hold boundaries. I fully support those who are working 12 Step programs, those who do want help finding one, and those who do not like what those programs have to offer. It’s all good.